![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
Tie 'Tie' James Celebration of Life, World Famous Turf Club, Hayward, CA 3/2/08
I hitched a ride with laurie girl up the memorial. It was really good to have some conversation time with her.
A lot of people showed up for the celebration of life for Tie. Including a bunch of family members, and Tie's ashes. Turned out that this celebration WAS his memorial. A whole lot of us spoke, sharing touching and funny memories. Honestly, it was a 'wow'; so many good stories painting a picture of a talkative, loving, open, hard-working, messy, humorous man. I swear, if that many folks show up at my memorial when the time comes, I will consider myself blessed and honored. There were an awful lot of red eyes in the place. It's been more than a month since we go the news of his passing, but the emotions were running pretty freely. Tie touched a lot of people.
I was terrifed to get up and share my very personal story, but I felt driven to do so. Tie was the first leatherman to approach me right after transition, asking questions. And then flirting. Offering kisses and an open heart. I can't express how much gratitude I have for that man.
I am really happy I got to meet Michael, the man he spent the last couple years of his life( in Palm Springs) with. He seemed a big hearted guy as well. And the number of family members that were there among the leather crew, accepting us and moved along with us. Wow. -- Michael told me that he knew of me, that Tie had spoken of me. I am still so blown away by that.
Cheers, Tie! Laughter and love and gratitude to you.
A lot of people showed up for the celebration of life for Tie. Including a bunch of family members, and Tie's ashes. Turned out that this celebration WAS his memorial. A whole lot of us spoke, sharing touching and funny memories. Honestly, it was a 'wow'; so many good stories painting a picture of a talkative, loving, open, hard-working, messy, humorous man. I swear, if that many folks show up at my memorial when the time comes, I will consider myself blessed and honored. There were an awful lot of red eyes in the place. It's been more than a month since we go the news of his passing, but the emotions were running pretty freely. Tie touched a lot of people.
I was terrifed to get up and share my very personal story, but I felt driven to do so. Tie was the first leatherman to approach me right after transition, asking questions. And then flirting. Offering kisses and an open heart. I can't express how much gratitude I have for that man.
I am really happy I got to meet Michael, the man he spent the last couple years of his life( in Palm Springs) with. He seemed a big hearted guy as well. And the number of family members that were there among the leather crew, accepting us and moved along with us. Wow. -- Michael told me that he knew of me, that Tie had spoken of me. I am still so blown away by that.
Cheers, Tie! Laughter and love and gratitude to you.
Thank you
(Anonymous) 2008-03-25 08:14 pm (UTC)(link)I am so glad you were there at Tie's memorial. He loved you very much. You were there the night he won Mr. Alameda County Leather. I am so glad you were there to share that night with him. I sure wish I knew Tim back then. Email me at backlotboy@gmail.com. I would like to keep in touch.
Love,
Michael
Tie's Husband