March in the San Jose Pride Parade 6/11

[lobolance]

Come march with the Santa Clara County Leather Association in support
of gay pride!  The San Jose Pride march is this Sunday, June 11. Show
your colors and your pride.

Gather in the parking lot at the corner of St. John and Market at
around 9:30 a.m. The march goes up Market street, and ends near the
festival grounds at the Discovery Meadow, on San Carlos Street.

Visit http://www.SCCLeather.org for more info about the SCCLA. Send a
note to info@sccleather.org if you have questions.

Visit http://www.sjgaypride.com/ for more info about SJ Pride.

Comments

[friskybunny.livejournal.com]

I would really appreciate your input about this. I notice you haven't friended me, but well, you *could*.

[lobolance.livejournal.com]

who are you??? that is the main reason I haven't friended you, I haven't figured out who you are. :-)

Drop me a line at lobolance@gmail.com if you don't want to 'reveal' yourself here. :-)

And re your post... wow, that's an intense situation, highly personal. I understand completely how you responded when someone else started messing with the cover, and your own confusion about how to deal with it. I will share some of my thoughts, take them as you will.

My main response is to want to ask you a lot of questions about where you're at *now*. Does the idea of wearing the cover make you feel connected? I suspect motogrrl would like it if you wore it and felt connected and proud of yourself as a leather bottom. Perhaps wearing it can be in part an hommage to her, and in part a way of stepping into your own leather identity?

OTOH, if the idea of putting it on... or say you try it and this is your response... makes you feel disconnected, out of your place, then let it be part of your leather altar (or personal equivalent thereof).

You have every right in the world to define/represent yourself as you choose. Re wearing leathers, and earning them/right to wear them, if you find a top one day who is into that, s/he can always after-the-fact give you methods/tasks to earn the leathers as part of your service, giving them extra value in your experience and your relationship. However, I think there is much to be said for having some of the 'flags' yourself, as part of your leather self, your own healthy pride. I don't think you would turn off prospective tops/masters/etc by wearing the leathers which suit you.

This is a conversation that could go on for a long time. :-) You can see all the questions in it. Be gentle with yourself, that is my motto for the year.

Regards.

[friskybunny.livejournal.com]

If I said that you sat next to me on the Poly panel at Baycon, would that help?

[lobolance.livejournal.com]

I sorta thought this ID might also be you, but I've never understood why you're so coy about the ID's. Why make it hard?

You are a wonderfully complex and interesting person, and strange as any of us. ;-)

I am now reminded of an occasion where my cover fell down and you hid your eyes. :-)

Anyhow, I hope some of what I wrote helps you sort out what works for you.

Hug.

[friskybunny.livejournal.com]

I did it because of the legal matter a few years ago concerning household members. I keep it because at least one of those household members reads LJ.

[lobolance.livejournal.com]

I can certainly imagine wanting to keep this stuff private from some of your household members. :-)