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On Tuesday night I was on a diversity panel (via the DeFrank Center) at Santa Clara University (which I recently discovered is a Jesuit university; explains all those Catholics last time I was on a panel there!). It was part of a multiculturalism class for psychology majors, which is a different angle of approach than usual. And hence made for a few slightly different questions, which rocked. 

One of the most interesting moments of the evening for me came when one very earnest woman asked one of the panelists about her sexuality: "I understand gay. I understand trans I think. I don't understand bisexuality," and went on from there to add stuff about, "if you're in a relationship with a woman now does that mean you'll choose to be in a relationship with a man next?"

The panelist did a pretty good job, coming at it from the angle of being monogamous, which I thought was quite original. Explaining she wasn't looking for a 'next,' and it wasn't 'choice', it's just who you fell for. I had to chime in, explaining bi people are sometimes sexual with both genders, but emotionally attach to only one, and sometimes are both sexual with and capable of emotional commitment to both genders. She got it, which was cool.

I can still be surprised.